You are now 25 and those scary 30s start getting dangerously close but, come on, you do not have to accomplish all your life goals by the end of this week.ģ. Stop worrying about the immediate future and start to broaden your time horizon. And this kind of thoughts, inevitably, causes further stress and anxiety. “If I do not leave my hated job now to travel the world, then when?!”. Do not rush: We often impose to ourselves a sense of urgency that is not real. You are not a super-hero, and no one is.Ģ. It is normal, just acknowledge it and go on. Do not punish yourself for what you feel. Here I listed some “approaches” that are helping me to cope with my personal quarter life crisis (yes, you can bet I have it too).ġ.Being more self-aware: Recognize your emotion and reactions and accept them without guilt or judgment. So, if in one way or another, experiencing this kind of crisis is inevitable, how we can get the best out of it? How we can see it as something that will shape further our personality and make us more resilient? And, sometimes, the answers they give themselves can be worrying.īut another characteristic of smart people is that, more often than not, they find solutions. Smart people like to think, they like to question things. If you are reading this article, there are good chances you are a highly driven, ambitious, and reasonably self-aware individual…and that is why you feel these feelings. However, we know that path does not belong to us. We experiment a mismatch between our values, our identity, our passions, our dreams and what we are taught is “the right path”. The constant comparison vs (supposedly) hyper-successful people and high achievers with perfect lives, relationships and careers, makes us feel insignificant and unworthy. We live in a “grass is always greener culture”. Moreover, this constant exposure to “better options” is amplified by social media and other digital channels. What about when there are 30 different dishes? Complete chaos! It is like when you are at the restaurant and there are just 3 options on the menu, then it is easy to choose what to order. And when you have more options you think more about what you can do. Compared to past generations (and thanks to them, their hard work and their sacrifices) we have more options and possibilities than ever. We have to choose if we want to order avocado toast or an açai bowl for Sunday brunch. Our grandparents were trying to survive the Second World war. These are all questions I ask myself on a regular basis.īut why is that? We live in unprecedent times of abundance and possibilities. “Am I actually creating an impact on the world? Am I happy? Where am I going? Why I do not feel fulfilled? What’s my end goal? What’s my real purpose?”. That’s how we end up in the classic “rat race”, and day after day we feel it will be more difficult to break free.Ĭonsequently, we often think about packing up our lives, leaving that job we do not like and start travelling around the world, working remotely from south east Asia or Latin America, living immersed in nature, waking up with the sound of the ocean in a gorgeous house in front of the beach. The problem is that the definition of “success” is often imposed to us by society, our family or our environment and it does not really resonate with us. We feel torn between the desire to follow our dreams and passions and the pressure to achieve success and recognition. We struggle to find a purpose in our career. We feel frustrated because we think our best years have passed already and we have not achieved what we want yet (assuming we have figured out what we really want). We feel like we are not achieving our full potential and we are falling behind. We feel anxious, lost, unfulfilled, doubtful. According to The Guardian, the quarter-life crisis affects 86% of millennials.Ĭlinical psychologist Alex Fowke defines it as “a period of insecurity, doubt and disappointment surrounding your career, relationships and financial situation” in your 20s and early 30s. Jokes apart, real statistics are not far from this. – The remaining 10% are not self-aware enough to know they experienced or are currently experiencing a quarter life crisis. Most of my friends are in their mid-20s and early 30s and, with a pretty good level of accuracy, I feel confident in grouping them in 2 main categories: – 90% of them experienced or are currently experiencing a quarter life crisis.
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